#BritMumsLive Bloggers’ Keynote: The tracks of my tears

Man Ray: Tears, 1930
As I sat myself down at a table surrounded by seasoned BritMums Live bloggers, I spied a packet of tissues. They belonged to a blogger who had come armed and ready for the Bloggers’ Keynote. “How sweet” I thought, as we all chattered away.

I love the blogging community that I’ve found myself part of. I love reading posts from a whole array of different bloggers. Sometimes I find myself crying over my laptop as I read a post.  Be it tears of empathy, sympathy or on joyous occasions, laughter. But as I sat waiting for the Bloggers’ Keynote to start, the thought of me dissolving into tears was far from my mind.

How naive. I must guiltily confess that the first wave of tears, the ones that I studiously kept at bay, that I really didn’t want to share with anybody, were for myself. It isn’t easy to watch a beautifully crafted film of three very happy family members eagerly anticipating the arrival of a fourth when you are trying to come to terms with a near miss.

But the arrival of Hayley from Downs Side Up on stage was to change the tracks of my tears. Like electric shock therapy, her passionately delivered words jolted me into remembering how lucky I am. Hayley has two beautiful daughters and one of them, Natty, has Down’s Syndrome. As she stood alone and talked us through the birth and days after the birth of her daughter, Natty, I found myself experiencing a potted version of the gamut of emotions that she herself felt and still feels so intensely.

I felt complete empathy as Hayley recounted the carelessly hurtful words uttered by medical staff at the hospital. Been there, been stung by similarly ill-considered words. But I was lucky enough to bring home a baby who will only have to meet the usual challenges that most parents expect to support their children through. My husband and I were lucky enough to experience people saying the usual well-wishes at the arrival of a new baby girl, albeit a few days later than anticipated.

I read Hayley’s post, What To Say When A Baby Is Born With Down’s Syndrome on her blog a little while back. Her words reached out and connected with me back then. The power of the written word is immense. But what I came to understand at BritMums Live is that you cannot underestimate the powerful effect of having those same words read to you by their author.

I got so much out of attending this year’s event. I gleaned a tonne of great tips from the workshops, I put faces to the names of a bunch of brilliant bloggers that I’ve been chattering away with online for the past few months, as well as catching up with some of the ace bloggers I’d met on previous occasions.

I’ve already mentally scheduled in BritMumsLive for next year. And next year, I will be coming armed and ready with my own packet of tissues for the Bloggers’ Keynote.

mother.wife.me AKA Luci McQuitty Hindmarsh. I'm a London based blogger, writer and social media maven. This is a personal blog about my life as a MOTHER to a little girl, WIFE to a businessman husband and all the other general stuff that happens to ME.

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  • http://www.honestmum.com Honest Mum

    So wonderful meeting you and I was sad not to be able to make the speeches at the end. Was very tired after filming and 2 hours sleep. Loved BritMums and looking forward to next year already x

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Yeay, roll on next year and it’ll be like a bunch of old friends hooking up to gossip and party! x

  • http://www.thedailymum.co.uk The Daily Mum

    I’m definitely going next year!

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Good-o, I missed you being there this year! x

  • http://www.3childrenandit.blogspot.co.uk Suzanne Whitton

    Wow, how powerful that must have been! I do feel that I probably missed out here but I’m not sure I’m brave enough….or my husband will understand me wanting to spend my weekend with people who he considers strangers (us bloogers know different though, don’t we?!)

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      It is pretty nerve-wracking the first time you go to a conference, my tactic has been to get together with some other nervous newbies for a coffee beforehand, has worked well and cemented friendships too. Go on, get a ticket for next year’s BritMums Live!

  • http://older-mum.blogspot.co.uk Older Mum (In a Muddle)

    That was a great post. I don’t think there was a dry eye in the room when Hayley read her post – so moving and honest. And there have been a number of Brit Mums posts that have referenced her reading including mine! See you next year, if not before, with a box of kleenex.

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Thank you. Just about to hop over and read yours. What Hayley achieved beyond causing everyone to cry, was a real in-depth understanding for all of us on what it is to have a child with Down’s Syndrome. That is the kind of thing that helps move society forward. She is an amazing lady.

  • http://www.janmary.com Janmary

    So true about the words being even more powerful when hearing them being delivered in the voice of the author.

    Loved the key note speeches – the highlight of the whole event. I would love more next year – maybe on both evenings?

    Not sure that we met, but wish we had! Maybe next year :)

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      It really was, wasn’t it. I’d vote for it being a much bigger part of proceedings next year – or even an event in its own right for charity perhaps?

      Next year we will meet! x

  • http://DownsSideUp Hayley Goleniowska

    I am truely humbled. I have just got home to Cornwall and stumbled on this. Thank you all for your kindnesses, and for listening.
    x

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      You moved a lot of people reading your post out and hopefully now that the blogging community has gone into over-drive about it, many more will read it online, both within and outside of the blogging community x

  • http://thefamilypatch.com Amanda

    We missed the Keynote as we really had to get home (left after last workshop and still didn’t get home until gone 10pm!) but it sounds like it was a really emotionally moving session. Next year I think I’ll book into a hotel for a second night so I can stay until the end!!

    I’ve found it so hard dealing with our choice not to have a second child of our own. But posts like Hayley’s really bring it home how lucky we are to have the one child we do have. That’s what I love about blogging so much. I would have been crying along with you had I been there!

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Thanks so much for your comment Amanda, there are some tough choices we have to make in life and that / this is one of the hardest. Hayley is an amazingly strong and articulate lady, it was worth going to BritMums Live just to hear her read her post aloud. It’s the stuff great blogging is made of.

      Defo get a hotel for the second night next year, the Keynote is a majorly brilliant part of the proceedings!

  • http://www.chloewitters.wordpress.com Chloe

    I chose to only go to the awards bit on the Friday, but the blogger’s keynote was the one part of the conference that I would have loved to see. I’d love for the keynote to be a more frequent/bigger/longer event, and I think the idea of having it as a charity event is a great one.

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      It could really work couldn’t it. Have put that on my feedback form to BritMums, so let’s see what they think of the idea…

  • http://www.mayfairmum.com Mayfair Mum

    Sorry I missed you! Maybe next time? What a whirlwind weekend! This is a fitting tribute to the keynote session. I was a wreck and snivelled my way through, only to find myself moments later snorting with laughter at Ministry of Mum’s hilarious post on sex after kids! Hayley really deserved her standing ovation though didn’t she? My BritMums resolution? Don’t moan so much :)

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      And me too, it got to the point where I gave up on trying to find everyone, my phone was being rubbish for Twitter and it was all a bit overwhelming trying to keep snooping round badges!! Ministry of Mum and Cari Rosen saved the day with their hilarity. Not to mention DorkyMum giving an Oscar-worthy performance, she is so cool. My BritMums resolution – work on quality over quantity – in fact it was my excuse to give up on the BloNoPoMo I was doing, as I realised that I’d rather post the best I can offer rather than post because I feel I should! Next conference… coffee and a gossip!

  • http://grenglish.co.uk Grenglish

    So lovely to see you, looking forward to next time x

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Ditto, big time! x

  • http://www.apartyofseven.com sarah

    Loved spending some time with you, and thanks so much for helping out with my questions in the wordpress talk. Hopefully catch up with you next year, meanwhile ill be back and have sub to your blog and you are on my reading list :) xx

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Thank you – and glad I was able to help re WordPress.

      I’ve liked your FB page – both as me and as mother.wife.me, I’d like to say that doing it twice was cos I was being generous, but it was actually because I really can’t get the hang of using FB as mother.wife.me!!!

      You’re also on my new Twitter Tribe list – which is my new list to keep track of all the bloggers I know, interact with regularly and really connect with – I am sure that has made your day / week / year knowing that hee hee! Anyway, looking forward to keeping up with gossip on Twitter with you xx