like babies, self-hosting means you’re in at the deep end

Woman Lying on Bed, Holding New Born Baby

 

Four days in to self-hosting mother.wife.me and the penny has finally dropped. It’s going to be a lot of work managing a self-hosted blog. I feel similar to how I felt four days in to having the now Tinkerous Toddler home from hospital after she was born.

A friend of mine describes this feeling so well…

“You bring your newborn baby home, you take a deep breath and you go under the water.  A few months later you reemerge, slightly out of breath.”

No matter what anyone tells you, you can only truly understand this feeling once you are having or have had this experience. I don’t want to put anyone else off making the move, I still have high hopes that this is the start of a whole new wonderful blog life. But I thought I’d be up front that this isn’t turning out to be as easy as I’d thought it would be.

If I had my time again, maybe I’d have done more reading up beforehand. There’s so much to learn. Having said that,  whilst pregnant I embarked on reading up on how to look after a baby. I came close to burning Gina Ford’s tome and The Baby Whisperer mainly got used as (decaf) coffee cup coaster.

The fact is, you can create this marvellous future-perfect in your mind, but until you are in the midst of nurturing your new born, be it baby or blog, it is all just airy-fairy theory.

So here I am, sitting and gazing lovingly at my new born blog and much like two years ago, I am not entirely sure what I am doing. My brain is a whir with all the things I think I should be doing. I’m pretty sure there will be some sleepless nights ahead. But hopefully, over the coming months, I will get the hang of it and the newly self-hosted mother.wife.me will bring me (and hopefully everyone who reads it) close to as much joy as the once new born, but now Tinkerous Toddler brings me.

Post Script:

I have to give a massive shout-out to the brilliant and generous Jax at Live Otherwise  who has just saved me from pulling out all of my hair during a particularly fraught “oh jeez, why did I ever even think I could go self-hosted” moment. It isn’t the first time she’s stepped in upon seeing a Twitter tech-SOS from me – and I hope that it won’t be the last, because she is darned good at saving my soul sanity on all matters technical. If you don’t know her already – though you probo do, because she is way up there with followers – you can follow her at @liveotherwise .

mother.wife.me AKA Luci McQuitty Hindmarsh. I'm a London based blogger, writer and social media maven. This is a personal blog about my life as a MOTHER to a little girl, WIFE to a businessman husband and all the other general stuff that happens to ME.

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  • http://www.crankymonkeys.com/blog Mrs B

    My self-hosted blog is a few years old by now – it gets easier as they get older! :)

  • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

    That’s very good to read, I will pop over and take a look to keep me inspired!

  • http://www.pret-a-mummy.com Pret-A-Mummy

    Looks wonderful to me! I can’t make out much difference in terms of the appearance from your old wordpress one. It will be a good learning experience for you and another string for your bow! Let me know how it goes, I have no idea how to go self hosted and what it entails but if it works for you I might give it a go (much much later!)x

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Thank you! It should hopefully start to look a bit cleaner and cooler, still working on that though!! I will keep you up to date with the transition, it is the way forward in so many ways, just have to keep reminding myself of that fact at the mo!!!

  • http://thethriftymum.wordpress.com/ The Thrifty Mum

    Well I’m not completely sure what self-hosted means but it sounds very impressive. I hope your new blog baby doesn’t have, or cause, too many screaming tantrums!

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      hee hee… it means not being part of the safety of the WordPress.com (or blogger.com) community and server. My blog is now on it’s own server and I fear there may be a tantrum or two in the offing as I get used to it all!!!

  • http://thedailymum.co.uk The Daily Mum

    Wowee! Soz it took me a while to pop by your new home. It looks good!
    I’m part confused and part overwhelmed by the whole self-hosting thing. It does feel like I’ve taken my relationship with blogging to a whole new level.

    • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

      Exactly the same thing here, it is a whole new level and I’m not sure I am ready for it!! Glad you think the new blog looks ok, I still have stuff I want to do, ideally to make it look cleaner, but one step at a time and all that!!

  • http://paxye.com/blog/ paxye

    Like parenting, It does get easier with time and they have made things easier also… When I started self-hosting 7 years ago, upgrading WordPress was like gambling the life of your blog, all done manually with a long list of steps and fingers crossed while hoping the unstable internet didn’t hiccup during the crucial moments… now it is done with the click of a button within seconds… Just get to understand your database so you can make regular backups and have fun discovering the possibilities of an open wordpress and having full control of your blog.

  • http://www.motherwifeme.com mother.wife.me

    Back up my database, I am so glad you said that as it had gone clean out of my mind. The number of horror stories I’ve heard of bloggers losing everything. That’s a job for my husband for tonight sorted then!!

    Whilst the switch over time was minimal, the fiddling seems infinite!! I hope that soon I have my blog looking as slick and cool as yours does!